Hi everyone! Today we’re going to go over some recently asked questions and give you my answers to them. I’d love to hear your answers to the following questions, too.
Question: How to overcome insecurities?
Well, the best way to overcome insecurities is simply… take action!
The easier way to do this, in my experience, is as follows:
- Write what you feel insecure about; this act will frame your fear and will make clearer to you what you are not confronting
- Then write how would you behave if you felt secure
- Then take a little part of that behavior that you think you could do safely
- Then… do it!
This will make you more acquainted with what is making you feel insecure and will help you to take some action too; after a few times of this exercise, you will get momentum and will take real action; and this will renew your self-confidence.
Moreover, insecurities are often connected with anxieties. Give a look to my related post.
For long standing insecurities, you can get a deeper help with the help of self-hypnosis. If you want to try this approach, I recommend you the Stop Being Insecure hypnosis download from Inspire3.
Question: How can I change the way I think?
Well, there are many ways to change the way you think.
My preferred ones are:
- Affirmations: the simplest method to refocus positively what you are thinking to; can be really effective over time; give a look to: Affirmations for Self-Confidence and Regain Self-Confidence in 2 Weeks
- Self Hypnosis: the more profound way to connect with your deeper mind and get lasting change; give a look at The Ultimate Uplifting Tool When You Are Having Hard Times: Self-Hypnosis for Confidence
- Surround yourself of positive and beautiful things: this will gently reframe your mindset
- Reset your mindset to a more resourceful one; get a few hints on this with Zero Self Confidence – Is Your Fear Of Not “Being Enough” Holding Your Back from the Success You Deserve?
Question: How can I overcome awful things I did in the past?
There’s only one answer: do forgive yourself whatever you have done. We can’t improve in an atmosphere of self-blame and criticism. In every very moment of our life, all we can do is the best we can do in those circumstances. But chastising ourselves for past mistakes can only hold us back. Forgive the person you were and did those awful things, and accept that you can be now a new person and accept the new person you are now. It’s through compassion that you’ll create the even better person you are becoming.
How are we going to do this? Try the following exercise.
- Close your eyes and see yourself as you are today. Don’t analyze or judge who you are today, just see yourself. Relax. Try to let go of any thoughts or distractions.
- Now imagine a younger version of yourself approaching–the you who did those awful things. That younger self looks at you timidly, filled with embarrassment and shame for what he did.
- After being angry, ashamed and embarrassed by this younger self, you feel compassion. Looking at this poor suffering soul, you realize it’s time to let him/her off the hook. This younger self has suffered enough.
- As you let go of your judgment, you realize that that younger self did the very best job possible, given the where he/she was at the time.
- Now, reach out, embrace and forgive that younger self. Give that younger self some comforting words of encouragement and soothe the pain they’ve been carrying around all these years. Take the burden off his/her shoulders as you both let it go.
- Imagine a conversation between your present and former selves. What went wrong that day? What did he learn? How can the present you and the former you work together to do better in the future? How can you together remedy to what you did? And if it’s not possible to remedy, how you will exploit this experience to improve the life of other people?
You may have several past “selves” to forgive. Picture each past self who disappointed you and go through the same process. You might be surprised at how this can lighten your load and ease your discomfort. Let your “selves” off the hook and move on.
As with insecurities, your guilt feelings can become so overwhelming to hinder your day-by-day life. If this applies to you, I suggest getting some additional help from hypnosis with the Get Rid of Guilt Hypnosislive download.
Question: How can I overcome continuous unsuccessful experiences?
Unsuccessful experiences are not a problem until you start thinking they are. At that very moment, you have formed a self-limiting belief. You can overcome this by:
- Stop complaining
- Start accepting things as they are
- Restore your sense of self-worth (give a look at the previous question if you need some hints)
- Remember that there is always a way and you can find it
- Take action and…
In very short terms, this is all you need. Get the full story on my “Rediscover Your True Power” blog post.
These are a few quick tips on dealing with your self-confidence. You can get more in-depth by looking at the pointers I gave you above. I’d love to hear what your thoughts are on these four questions. Let me know if you agree or disagree or have more insight to offer. Also, be sure and sign up for my self-confidence challenge!