There are many instances in life where your confidence is hit hard. Sometimes you overcome life’s hardness, sometimes you get overwhelmed. Sometimes your courage and confidence sees you through, but sometimes your self-confidence gets a beating. In this case you have to regain self confidence as fast as possible.
I had this kind of experience a couple of years ago, when a professional setback got me K.O. and led me almost to depression.
As I stated in previous posts, without self confidence you go nowhere. Can you afford to lose your self confidence when you have a very big problem and find yourself without energy, options and time?
When your self-belief begins to rise, you discover new options you never thought of. A before desolate and depressing outlook can be now filled with new opportunities and new experiences and create a new exciting positive future.
You now can anticipate the future you once dreaded. Your shiny future is waiting for you, so start from where you are today and choose the right direction towards it.
How are we going to do this? Get through these 4 questions.
“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” ― Suzy Kassem
If believing in yourself is considered the major cause of success, self-doubt is the main cause of failure. Overcoming self-doubt is for sure part of your development of believing in yourself.
We have seen that without self-esteem is impossible to believe in yourself. You have also to overcome negative thinking and external factors. Nevertheless, you may believe that you don’t have the means to better yourself or that you don’t deserve a better life. You can have roadblocks that are impeding your self-belief to blossom.
You first you have to identify what’s holding you back. Here are three common self-doubt traps that can keep you from living out your true potential.
A number of things can cause low self-confidence and a lack of self-belief. We have seen that self-belief requires self-esteem and overcoming negative thinking. While these are internal factors, there are also external dynamics that can affect your self-belief in such an extent that will deeply affect your chances to live life big.
The space you live in can be a great source of support or suppression and your self-belief won’t take off if you are not aware of these factors and how they influence your life. Spend some time reflecting on your current life, ask yourself these questions and think about your answers.
When you don’t like yourself, you’ll evaluate yourself negatively in many things you do and very likely you’ll engage in a negative self-talk. This is why low self-esteem is one of the most important reasons of negative self-talk and why overcoming negative self-talk requires addressing self-esteem at first when you are trying to recover your self-belief.
By now, we have seen that self-confidence is a pillar skill for a successful and meaningful life. We have seen a lot of tips and suggestions and thought-provoking insights. If self-confidence, boiled down, is “I can”, then believing in yourself is a basic prerequisite for a healthy self-confidence. This could be restated as: “Self-confidence is Believing I can”. This seems a sensible thought, but how to start believing in yourself?
Some time ago, I saw the movie “The Pursuit of Happyness”. I think it’s a true inspiring masterpiece on winning over personal challenges with self-confidence. Today I’d like to share my thoughts on this movie with you.
The pursuit of happyness
The movie is based on the true story of Chris Gardner, a man who was facing poverty and struggling to support his family. He invested heavily in a medical device that didn’t sell well and lost his money. Due to serious money difficulties, his wife left him and he lost his house.
Feeling good is one of the best rewards for our soul and our mind. And it often comes from doing something good, especially if you are proud of it. Easy random acts of kindness are a way of doing this. If you haven’t heard of the idea behind it, it’s all about doing something for someone else without expecting anything in return.
Hello everyone! Sometimes I share here my experience about well-established confidence experts, like for example I did with Russ Harris and his book on the four self-confidence traps. Today I want to point to a very special self-help guru, James Clear. He runs a high traffic self-development blog that gets over 1 million visits per month at jamesclear.com.
What’s special in James? His articles have a focus on habit and behavior change with scientific evidence and I like him so much because of this scientific “twist”. If you have read other top personal development gurus, you should have a try with James. You won’t be disappointed.