There are many instances in life where your confidence is hit hard. Sometimes you overcome life’s hardness, sometimes you get overwhelmed. Sometimes your courage and confidence sees you through, but sometimes your self-confidence gets a beating. In this case you have to regain self confidence as fast as possible.
I had this kind of experience a couple of years ago, when a professional setback got me K.O. and led me almost to depression.
As I stated in previous posts, without self confidence you go nowhere. Can you afford to lose your self confidence when you have a very big problem and find yourself without energy, options and time?
Self confidence vs self esteem? Well, many people mistake self-confidence and self-esteem. Well, they are two very different concepts: boiled down, self-confidence is “I can do it”, self-esteem is “I like myself”. While they are not the same thing, they are tightly related.
Self confidence vs self esteem: how they are connected
While self-esteem is a broad concept, self-confidence usually applies to single areas of life. You can be self-confident with math, for example, but feel unsecure about romantic relationships. So, while self-esteem is a global concept, self-confidence will be different in several areas of your life.
Hello everyone! Want to know the secrets of self-confidence of a true champion? Keep reading!
Today I want to share with you an interview with the self-confidence champion from the world of Internet Marketing. This is an internet based kind of business full of traps and… sharks… Nobody today is able to survive the pressure of such a kind of business without a lot of patience, discipline and self-confidence.
The champion of ethical and genuine self-confidence in this world of sharks is, in my humble opinion, Arun Chandran.
He’s a professional fire artist and he’s owner of www.flaminghotplr.com where he sells content on many topics that internet marketers can customize and use for their business.
He’s the most sincere, motivating and positively brutal marketer I know, and his newsletter is so inspiring that I find him more a teacher and a coach than a marketer. And for sure I’m not the only one thinking this, as everything he does gets always raving fans… (So, if you are in the Internet Marketing business do yourself a favor and subscribe his newsletter at www.flaminghotplr.com)
For these reasons, I asked him permission to present a few questions to share his secrets of self-confidence with you.
He kindly agreed and you find in the following my questions and his answers…
So you set your mind to getting self confidence back. Sometimes you work hard, but all you can see is that your resolution to be self-confident is not taking you anywhere.
When this happens, is very likely that you are indulging in one of the 8 self-confidence deadly mistakes. It is important to become aware of these seemingly harmless obstacles that have all the power to stop you in your path.
Let’s assess the possible reasons that you are not moving ahead in top gear.
We know how developing an unbreakable self-confidence will bring you joy and success in every area of your life. An unbreakable self-confidence is essential to face challenges, overcome self-doubt, overcome failure, learn and go one step further.
There are many ways to develop an unbreakable self-confidence. In “How to boost self-confidence” we have seen a very robust way. The pivotal point there is about developing courage.
Nothing like the habit of having courage will develop your unbreakable confidence.
Being adventurous is a good way to cultivate this. I have prepared a very short video for you on this:
However, your workplace has a major difference compared to many other real life situations you have to face: you are forced to work with people who could be a real source of challenges for you and your ego. They can be your boss, your peers, your coworkers, etc.
Therefore, you can bet that dealing with people in your workplace is the second pillar of you self-confidence in your workplace.
We are covering today a self-confidence book that shows you how to do address your self-confidence mind related issues in a simple but radical and very effective way.
We know that our mind plays a very important role with our self-confidence. A mind focused on your true objectives at the deepest level will grant you success, but of course you first must get there.
When we approach new challenges, is possible that repeated negative thoughts will arise. When this happens, it for sure undermines our self-confidence and our ability to approach the challenge in a constructive and effective way.
There are plenty of approaches to addressing this. For example, affirmations for self-confidence are a simple starting point to re-educate your mind to a healthier mindset.
Sometimes we find that things are hard at the beginning, but then they becomes easier as we work on them as you gain momentum. But other times things become harder and harder, at the point that your mind seems battling against you.
When this happens, it seems that you’ll never be enough motivated, enough confident, enough fearless to be able to confront your challenges.
Reaching your goals takes dedication, commitment and the willingness to do whatever it takes. When things don’t work, going forward becomes harder and harder. You experience all kinds of disappointments and frustrations. You did your homework, you know things should work, you know your results are somewhere out there. But you are still failing to get the results that should follow and you know you deserve. This is the point where you need both confidence and resilience.
And you come to the point that you seriously start thinking that what you are doing is not working and you should better giving up. Every time you think that you are failing, your confidence lowers and you risk seriously to really give up. Resilience is your ability to not give up when you reach this point. So, while confidence is your ability to take a challenge, resilience is your ability to retry when things are not working. So you need both confidence and resilience to reach your greatest goals.
A few decades ago, self confidence was just a shy children problem. Today self confidence is recognized as one of the most important skill for day to day survival and long term success. What did happen? How this can help us to sort out the most important key to self confidence?
We have seen that there are many ways to address how to raise self confidence. A lot of this stuff has to do with expanding your comfort zone, and acting with courage. It’s not a case we are dealing with this in our self confidence challenge (subscribe at the bottom).
Of course a lasting self confidence requires deep inner stability. Stability about knowing yourself, knowing who you are.
A recent sociological research focused on the “self-concept clarity” notion. This is the stability over time of clear and confident beliefs about themselves. It’s easy to see that the more self-concept clarity you have, the more robust and resilient self confidence you have.
So, what’s the best way to rise your self-concept clarity?